Phil Collins' actress daughter Lily Collins makes some peace with him via an essay in her new book Unfiltered: No Shame, No Regrets, Just Me.
Lily is Collin's first daughter and the two have been through periods of estrangement after her parents divorced when she was five years old, often stemming from Phil Collins being away so much of the time working with Genesis during her childhood in the 70s.
In the chapter "A Letter To All Dads," Lily -- who starred most recently in Rules Don't Apply and To The Bone and has two more films in post-production -- writes that she's forgiven her father "for not always being there when I needed and for not being the dad I expected."
She writes that, "I've realized many of my deepest insecurities" -- including eating disorders and dysfunctional relationships -- stem from these issues with my dad. It's taken me over a decade to resolve some of them (others I'm still resolving) and to finally build up the courage to speak my mind to him...Because my dad was often gone, I never wanted to do anything that would make him stay away even longer. I became extra careful about what I said and how I said it, afraid he'd think I was angry or didn't love him. And the truth is, I was angry. I missed him and wanted him there."
On a more hopeful note, Lilly writes that, "There's stills so much time to move forward. And I want to. I'm inviting you to join me. I'll always be your little girl."
Phil Collins has openly acknowledged his parenting deficits, writing about them in his own book, Not Dead Yet -- The Memoir, that came out last fall. He tells us that,
"I've got a lot of things to be thankful for, but I've also got a lot of things to accept that it was maybe me that fucked up...I'm talking about personally now where perhaps I should've said no to a few tours that I said yes to, and the consequences of which are in the book...I'm not doing it on purpose; I just, this is the way I am."
Phil Collins is preparing for a concert tour, his first in more than a decade, during June with shows in Britain, Germany and France.
Gary Graff is an award-winning music journalist who not only covers music but has written books on Bob Seger, Neil Young and Bruce Springsteen.