Fans of These Musical Genres Are More Likely to Have Borderline Personality Disorder
They say that someone’s taste in music can say a lot about them. Now, a new study is out that links certain individuals with different degrees of borderline personality disorder to specific preferences in music. The new study comes from the Psychology of Music, so while it’s just one study, it’s certainly interesting to see this possible relationship between musical tastes and borderline personality disorder.
What is borderline personality disorder?
Borderline personality disorder, according to the Cleveland Clinic, is “a mental health condition. People with BPD have extreme mood swings, unstable relationships and trouble controlling their emotions. They have a higher risk of suicide and self-destructive behavior.”
The study’s author, Rafał Lawendowski of the Department of Family Studies and Quality of Life at the University of Gdansk, says his interests are on the psychological functions of music. “We know quite a lot about this subject considering the standard population. However, we were interested in the problem of the function of music among people with personality disorders, specifically people with severe symptoms of borderline personality disorder,” he told Psypost.org.
The study had 549 participants and divided them up based on their scores on an abbreviated version of the Borderline Personality Inventory. The sample was 75.6% female, lining up with the demographics of people with the disorder. The researchers concluded that those in the study with higher borderline personality symptom severity had “distinct preferences” for certain genres of music, according to Psypost.org. They state, “Notably, individuals exhibiting higher symptom severity showed a preference for reflective and complex music genres, such as classical or jazz, while showing less interest in intense and rebellious genres like heavy metal or punk.” So, it appears my love for heavy metal means that I’m less likely to have this disorder. I say, though, it’s just one study. So, don’t go thinking you have borderline personality disorder just because of your awesome jazz music collection.
These Are the Most Common Reasons People End a Relationship
They can't be friends, in addition to lovers
According to Heysigmund.com, “Studies have shown that the love and passion that comes with the initial boost of marriage wears off after two years, which is why the best relationships are the ones that have genuine friendship at their core.” It makes sense. You can’t just be physically attracted to your partner. You have to actually like them as a person, too, and enjoy their company. You have to be friends, too.
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There's a lack of respect
This is a big one. Bestlifeonline.com notes that, “…if one partner has a blatant disrespect for the other’s life choices, neither partner will ever feel comfortable talking about their day, let alone their feelings or beliefs.” That’s really true. You have to respect the other person and let them know that you care and respect them, or else the relationship could hit some really rocky roads.
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Lack of trust
Trust is a huge thing in a relationship. The more serious a relationship gets, the more trust is important, too. That’s why it can make or break a relationship in those later years. “One of the foundational feelings necessary in a good relationship is a feeling of security,” Verywellmind.com says. “If you lack emotional support or find your partner unreliable, you might lose trust.”
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You rushed into a relationship
We’ve all been there. Everything was so great at first, that you went from a first date to, “Here’s my mom and dad.” Maybe you rushed into a relationship as a rebound, or maybe it was filling a void in your life. Either way, going into a relationship too fast is often a reason people break it off.
A major life event pushed the relationship to the edge
I’ve seen this happen before. Sometimes, it’s life that causes friction in the relationship, not the relationship at all. If someone is going through a really hard time or dealing with a shocking loss, sometimes, they can decide to just step away from everything, including their relationship. It can be anything from a big move to a death. “A big and unexpected life event, like the death of a parent or a sudden job layoff, can shake a relationship to its core,” states Bestlifeonline.com. They add, “And, oftentimes, these life-changing moments will result in other major changes that many relationships struggle to survive.”
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Communication problems
You totally have to be able to communicate with your partner. They can’t read your mind. The people who don’t communicate well are often those who find themselves having trouble in relationships. “Numerous studies have identified communication (or a lack thereof) as one of the top reasons for couples seek therapy, as well as one of the top reasons for break-ups and divorces,” Delraybeachpsychiatrist.com says.
Your partner isn't grateful
Even if you’re been in a relationship for a long time, a simple “thank you so much” means a lot. Always make sure to let your partner know how much you appreciate the little, and big, things. It goes a long way. Not being grateful could even lead to a breakup.
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Financial woes
Arguing about money is really common in relationships. It’s also a big reason why some couples can’t make it work. Maybe your partner loves to spend money on luxuries, and you’re a penny-pinching type. That’s an issue. “Differences over money is one of the top reasons for marital dissolution. But a couple also doesn’t need to be married to have money challenges,” Delraybeachpsychiatrist.com says.
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